Going Forward: What’s Next When Things Go Wrong

I would like to begin this post thanking everyone who checked out my prior post. I have sincerely appreciated and am grateful for the views. It wasn’t easy, but my best writing comes out when I’m honest and not hiding how I’m feeling.

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Image: Jack Moreh (Freerangestock.com)

As I write this, I wonder how many of us found ourselves in this position. When they realize they’ve lost direction and debate how to move forward. Unfortunately, life doesn’t change overnight no matter how much–and I’ve done this too!–we wish for it. Sometimes the only thing you can really do is focus on what you can control in your life verses what you can’t.

I think it’s pretty easy for us to let life pass us by and bemoan at our failed dreams.

But…when you really think about it, is it all really THAT hopeless?

How many of you have heard the phrase, “This too shall pass”? Or, “There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel”? Like me, you have probably told yourself these phrases, but felt at times they weren’t making a difference. Even when clarity does arrive, you feel the regrets pounding at your door: You should have done this or that or why didn’t I do this, etc.

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That’s human. We are human. When I turned 24 a few weeks ago, I felt like I could take a deep breath and put my 23rd year behind me. Are the regrets around? Yes, they are. Are the struggles still here? Yep, they are.

But, the past doesn’t have to be.

How many of you wished you finished a book sooner? Wished you had entered that writing contest you ended up forgetting about? Wished you had taken the time to sit down at your computer, or grab that notebook, and write? Or, regretted something you wrote because you felt there was more you wanted to say that you didn’t consider before?

Here’s the thing. That’s the past. At this very moment, how much do we really have to lose? Go back to that book or start fresh. Watch for every contest opportunity and go for it by making a list and calendar tracking deadlines, word counts and other guidelines. With something you already did, you can always rewrite. Plus, the rewrite could become inspiration for a newer story you could be proud of.

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Image: Jack Moreh (Freerangestock.com)

My fellow writers, going forward can be just as hard as realizing your feelings about things that matter to you, being honest with yourself about your mistakes and returning to your unfinished work, wondering why you stopped in the first place. You will get back up, but also face trials within yourself, from others and the curve-balls of life.

The key is not letting the past, those regrets and emotions win.

We all have the power to go forward.

We just need to take that first step, and take it one day at a time.

 

 

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